Why does the workplace PUA that everyone shouts and fights always work so well?
There have been continuous rumors about workplace PUAs on the Internet, and anti-PUA voices have fluctuated with each other, but there are still many people who are still experiencing the pain of being PUAs.
Although workplace PUA does not have a specific environment and related academic research. But everyone who has experienced it is easy to understand, especially the discomfort caused by being frequently suppressed, belittled, and denied.
So, why does the workplace PUA that everyone shouts and fights always work so well?
Recently, an internal training PDF of a large factory has flowed out, and the main contents of which are excerpted for your reference:
If you remember the four principles, the staff will be very loyal to you.
Principle 1: Keep him very busy and have no time to think.
Principle 2: Make him very tired.
Principle 3: Let him be inseparable from the company.
Principle 4: Recurring small favors and small favors.
The above are four principles, and the following are eight specific practices.
Approach 1: Continue to create crises.
The constant crisis keeps employees busy and nervous.
Approach 2: Don't offer really generous rewards.
What you have to do is make a verbal promise (like "Next year the company will grow big...), but don't give a real big reward.
Practice three: create some trivial success.
You assign tasks so that employees can achieve a little bit of achievement in some small things, so that they can feel a little sense of accomplishment and not be completely downcast. Also, since you gave them the task, they might also have a bit of a crush on you for it.
Practice 4: Fragmentation of working hours.
His work must be interrupted constantly and uninterruptedly.
Practice five: strengthen employees' sense of belonging.
You have to remind them at all times that they belong to the company, and make them feel like they would lose their identity without the company.
Practice 6: Don't give employees satisfaction.
You want them to feel that everything about them is lacking: lack of time, lack of money, lack of status, etc.
Workplace PUA, some newcomers to the workplace are the most likely to be recruited. When they first entered the society, they were not very confident. They were afraid of making mistakes, and they were constantly suppressed by leaders. It is really easy to cause a person to have low self-esteem, doubt their own thoughts, and even depression in severe cases.
So don't deny yourself at work, you must believe in yourself! ! !
So in the face of this kind of PUA talk, first of all, we can't be too thin, otherwise we will think too much, and we will work overtime for free to produce output, and secondly, we must learn to lead, not to listen to all, but only to listen to what is useful to our work and ourselves. . Workplace PUA is unavoidable. So having a good supervisor is very important. Sometimes it is luck, and most of the time, you have to rely on your own efforts to enter a good company. Generally, PUAs are relatively few and light (of course, it is difficult to avoid), and the impact is not large. You need to develop your own judgment, not just work. If you obviously feel the PUA, jump out in time, stop the loss in time, and don't have any illusions. Don't waste your time. Take control.
The more people who can not match, the more they like PUA.
When it comes to how to get rid of workplace mental control, the most direct way is to change jobs. The party under mental control has a very low self-evaluation. It is recommended to study and train some improvement courses first, and then invest in a new workplace.
Of course, it is also possible to change jobs instead of changing institutions. The transferred employees, even if the leadership tries to continue as before, still need to give you time to take on the burden of work and bring benefits to the company. In this way, employees can reposition themselves in the role changes brought about by job transfer, and establish new ways of communicating with leaders. If, in a relationship, you are constantly being blamed and demanded, and you feel bad and worthless, please reflect on whether you have been treated inappropriately, and perhaps you need to seek better help in time.
PUA has always been regarded as an evil face, but it is not all harm and no benefit, but it is actually a way of managing art. Although PUA is not good, it is a squeezing communication and collaboration relationship in the workplace, but the prerequisite for feeling PUA is that you are passive. Whether it is subjective passive or objective passive, you are passively squeezed, oppressed or even passive. It is a pinch, but if you jump out of this relationship, can you untie yourself from the cloud or under the pressure?