The cruel truth of adult socializing: It's useless to know anyone when you're useless
My friend Xiaoman is a very social person. After work, he often participates in various social activities and meets a lot of people.
Every time I asked her what she was doing, she said what activities she was participating in, and sometimes even in order to get to know some famous people, she took the initiative to ask the other party for WeChat. In the end, the WeChat of these people just stays in the WeChat friend list without any intersection. Because there are more friends added, there are already 3 WeChat.
In the workplace, many adults are keen on socializing, hoping that they can meet many powerful celebrities, and hope to have a relationship with each other, but in fact, even if they add friends, they have never said a word.
01 Instead of knowing a lot of people, let more people know you
In relationships, what matters is not who you know, but who knows you. Social networking is not about mixing circles and linking people. Such an approach will not link to effective people.
Many people who are keen on socializing believe that after adding WeChat to each other, you already know each other, and you can keep in touch in the future and help you when you need it, but in fact, such socializing is ineffective.
Even if you know a lot of celebrities and bigwigs, but they don't know you or even have any impression of you, such a social relationship is meaningless.
Socialization is the ability of two people to have a relationship, to have contact, to exchange information or to exchange human feelings.
If you know the other person but can’t provide them with any practical value, the other person has no need to know you at all. Therefore, instead of actively adding other people’s WeChat and getting to know others, it is better to build your own value and make others more willing to take the initiative to know you. .
The cruel truth of adult socializing: It's useless to know anyone when you're useless
02 The people you associate with the most determine your personal value
Many people say that "the value of a person is the average of the five people with whom he interacts the most." People will imitate and influence each other.
In ancient times, Meng's mother moved three times, and now there are schools of choice. The purpose is not only to let children receive a good education, but also to hope that children will become friends with those who love to learn.
If all the friends around you are talented and knowledgeable, naturally you will not be bad. But if the people around you are idle every day and don’t think about making progress, then you won’t take the initiative to learn and improve.
Therefore, when making friends, you should also look at the value you can provide now and what kind of value you need. Instead of spending time with people who have no value, spend more time building your own personal value, so that more people will take the initiative to be friends with you.
The cruel truth of adult socializing: It's useless to know anyone when you're useless
03 Zero deposit and withdrawal, valuable social networking
Whether it is mixing circles or linking people, if you want to build a suitable social circle, you must first know whether you have exchangeable value and whether you can help others in a certain way.
If social interaction is not based on mutual exchange and mutual help, then such social interaction is meaningless and worthless.
The social principle of most people is "zero deposit and withdrawal". When someone needs your help, take the initiative to help each other, even if it is a small favor, and take the initiative to lend a helping hand. This will not only help you build a good relationship, but also go back and forth. It can also enhance the friendship between you.
Social networking is actually like depositing money in a bank, with small deposits and withdrawals, and a little bit at a time, adding up to a lot.
Although some people have a strong social value, they are very selfish in their daily social interactions and only care about themselves and disdain to help others. Then when you need help, others have no reason to help you.
The cruel truth of adult socializing: It's useless to know anyone when you're useless
write at the end
The relationship between people starts from small things. Helping two people establish a relationship. Only by helping others and being altruistic will your social value be reflected. Only you are valuable, your social is more valuable.