Don't be too weak: you are afraid of offending people, if you don't know how to refuse, you will lose miserably!
In the workplace, everyone knows that honest people are easy to bully, why are they always easy to bully? It's just that honest people are too weak, so if you can't handle the following problems well, you will lose miserably.
[1] The more you are afraid of offending people, the more you are the bad person who offends them.
Many people are afraid of offending others. First, they feel that they are humble and have no status or status. Second, they dare not adhere to their own principles of being a human being. For example, someone greets them and asks them to show mercy. After offending someone, what kind of serious consequences will there be, and this person can't afford to be offended. As a result, all the things in my heart are afraid of offending this person, so I let down my vigilance and gave people the green light, but People's desires are getting bigger and bigger. When you give someone the green light, he will become more and more courageous. The more you dare not offend her, the more he will open his mouth and touch your bottom line. At that time, you had to be this bad person, but in the end you offended people, but you yourself became the bad person who offended people. So you shouldn't be afraid of offending people from the beginning, but let other people's desires be put away when they are just a little bit, and there will be no such troubles later, so the more you are afraid of offending people, the more you will be the one who offends them in the end. bad guy.
【2】The less you know how to reject others, the more they will bully you.
This situation is also common in the workplace. Many honest people are introverted and weak. When the leader arranges things for himself, he is very clear in his heart that this arrangement is very unfair, but he I'm sorry to refuse the leader's arrangement, this is good, the leader thinks that you are a very easy person to bully, so when there are some rubbish things, they will still arrange it on your head, and as a result, the situation you are facing is increasingly difficult. Fairness, if you know how to refuse from the beginning, you will not accept this kind of unfairness at all, and the leaders will think that you are not easy to bully, so the following things will not happen again, so the editor is here Tell you, if you don't know how to reject others, you deserve to be bullied.
[3] Blind tolerance will only make oneself more and more passive.
A lot of people have the idea that suffering is a blessing. At the beginning, they suffer a small loss. They feel forbearance in their hearts. Once they endure it, they will pass. Others cannot be so arrogant, but if you let others this time, others will be right You go on, the second time, the third time. As a result, if you are blindly forgiving, you will make yourself more and more passive. Therefore, when others bully you, you must say no from the beginning, and don’t let these weak and fearful people say no. Thoughts control your own brain. Only when problems are eliminated in the bud, and you know how to deal with them at the beginning, will you turn from passive to active. When many situations have formed a very clear environment, such as , Everyone thinks that you are a very talkative person. When everyone bullies you, you just tolerate it. Not only will everyone not appreciate you, but you will feel that you are a very useless person, and you deserve to be bullied.
