The 37-year-old job seeker was ridiculed in public: what is more terrible than poverty is being poor
I once watched a variety show "It's You", and I was particularly impressed.
A 37-year-old job seeker suddenly took out a handful of change from his pocket and threw it on the ground during the program interview. He says:
"I still have this money on me. If I don't find a job, I'll be hungry tomorrow. I hope you can give me a chance."
The 37-year-old job seeker was ridiculed in public: what is more terrible than poverty is being poor
When the bosses at the scene heard this, they shook their heads and chose to turn off the lights.
As one boss said: "When he throws money on the ground to gain sympathy, he lowers his personality. Such a person is destined to achieve nothing."
Yes, one can be poor, but one cannot lower one's personality.
In the eyes of others, the more humble begging, the more worthless.
People who sell miserably don't deserve sympathy
A few days ago, our company's HR shared a resume. There is no work experience on the resume, and no job application, just a few words:
"I've been unemployed for more than half a year, and now my child is sick and hospitalized. I'm really in a hurry. I can do anything. Please give me a chance. I will cherish it and study hard."
HR said: "If he speaks with strength, I respect him very much and am willing to give him a chance. But he just used pity to soften my heart. I don't think his pity is worthy of sympathy at all."
In life, we often meet people who market themselves by selling their misfortunes, and gain opportunities by gaining the sympathy of others. But such a road often does not go very far.
The workplace is a stage for competition, not a charity venue. It's not about recruiting people who are pitiful or helpless.
Opportunities are not earned by selling badly, but are earned by strength.
The 37-year-old job seeker was ridiculed in public: what is more terrible than poverty is being poor
One of the eldest sister cried: I am 36 years old this year, and now I know nothing, and I can't learn anything else. There are old people and young people. How can I live in the future? "
The 37-year-old job seeker was ridiculed in public: what is more terrible than poverty is being poor
When people reach middle age, they suddenly lose their jobs, which is really pitiful.
But in this world, no one is easier to live than anyone else, but some people choose to shout, and some people choose to work hard.
Zhao Dianxiang, a 76-year-old "grandmother with a pole", has been carrying a pole and selling vegetables on the street for 8 years, repaying her son's foreign debt of more than 100,000 yuan due to illness.
The 37-year-old job seeker was ridiculed in public: what is more terrible than poverty is being poor
But she never sold badly. Many people who knew what happened to her would always drop a few more dollars when they came to buy food, or leave quickly before getting change.
She was always catching up, giving him an extra bag of vegetables, or stuffing four or five apples.
Such people, although poor, are really decent.
The greatest skill of adults is not to sell miserably.
Selling miserably will only make you look worse; actions will make you gain dignity.
Most misfortunes do not deserve sympathy and do not need sympathy.
Instead of wasting time on selling miserably, it is better to calm down and study hard, work hard, and live in a more decent way.
2 The poor in heart are not worthy of mercy
As the saying goes: "It doesn't matter if a person is poor, he just works hard; if his heart is poor, he is useless."
In life, we will inevitably encounter such people, who are obviously dissatisfied with life, say that they envy this, want that, but have no courage to change the reality, and lack the will to live for themselves.
Just like the job seeker in the previous article, he has a dream of being a star and has been drifting in the north for more than ten years, but his meager income is not enough to support his renting life in Beijing. He can only sleep in an Internet cafe every night.
He said that now his dream is awake and he wants to find a normal job.
A boss suggested to him:
"You can go out and turn right. There is SF Express. There, your monthly income is enough to support yourself. It's just a little tired, but it can ensure that you have a bed to sleep, hot meals to eat, and a dignified life."
Hearing these words, his eyes twitched and he turned his head to the other side.
As he said in an interview after the show was recorded: "I just want to find a job, otherwise why am I here?"
The 37-year-old job seeker was ridiculed in public: what is more terrible than poverty is being poor
You see, this is the logic of the poor at heart: "You are so rich and your career is so good, you will give me a job!"
For those who are poor at heart, they will always regard poverty as their own strength, relying on their own poverty, and desperately take advantage of you.
I have read a story.
One day, the rich man saw a poor man standing at the door of his house.
The rich man asked him, "What are you doing here?"
The poor man replied, "I am too poor. You are rich, can you give me some money?"
The rich man saw that he was very pitiful, so he took out 300 yuan and handed it to him, "I started from scratch with this 300 yuan, and now I will give you so much. You can find something to do yourself."
Seeing the money, the poor man's eyes widened and he agreed, and he hasn't seen him for half a month.
Just when the rich thinks the money is right, the poor come back.
The rich man asked, "Didn't you go to work?"
The poor man said, "Of course not. I don't have any craftsmanship. It costs a few hundred yuan to sign up for a class. How can I get so much money when I'm poor? Besides, I don't necessarily learn well if I spend it, and the money won't be wasted in vain."
The lack of material can still be made up with money, but if the heart is barren, it is doomed to be desolate for life.
The 37-year-old job seeker was ridiculed in public: what is more terrible than poverty is being poor
I have read a question: what do the poor lack?
A netizen said:
Since ancient times, no one who begged for breakfast has asked for breakfast. The poor lack funds on the surface, lack ambition in essence, lack courage in their bones, and lack the power to change.
In this life, people are not afraid of being poor for a while, but they are afraid of being poor for a lifetime.
People with poor hearts are short-sighted and small in structure. They cannot see the vast world, and they are unwilling to change and work hard for their future.
Only those who are not poor, have an open mind and a long-term vision, can they change, work hard, and earn the life they want with their hands.
Wang Bo said in the "Preface to the Pavilion of King Teng": "The poor and the stronger, the ambition not to fall into the sky!"
People can be poor, but the heart cannot be poor.
Heart is not poor, know how to make progress, rely on yourself, life will be more exciting.
- Those who know how to cross themselves are worthy of respect
The year before last, a video of a delivery boy with cerebral palsy running orders late at night aroused numerous heated discussions.
Aaron is a cerebral palsy patient. In the middle of the rainy night, he is still running on the empty streets.
When asked, why didn't you go home earlier to rest?
He said slowly that in order to make money, he usually runs orders from two platforms. But this day, because I didn't have time to take a photo to recognize my face, the system couldn't confirm it was me, so I was blocked by a platform.
He thought about running a little more to get the money back.
He ran late into the night and only made more than a hundred dollars.
Is this life unfortunate enough?
Many netizens wanted to help him and transfer money to him, but they were all rejected by him.
He said: "I can't ask for this money. I make money with my own efforts. I want to work harder."
Being able to have a job and live by your own efforts is far more real than sympathy and compassion.
Aaron understands this.
With his self-reliance, optimism and calmness, he has won our admiration, and let us see that people can live as a beam of light when they are at a low point.
Life is really difficult, and only those who know how to cross themselves can not be overwhelmed by suffering and gain affirmation and respect.
In the movie "When Happiness Comes Knocking", the male protagonist Chris is a salesman. When he reaches middle age, his career is hindered and his life almost collapses across the board.
Unable to endure the poverty, his wife ran away from home, leaving him and his five-year-old son to depend on each other.
Because they had no money to pay the rent, they were kicked out by the landlord, wandering the streets, and sleeping in the men's toilet of the subway.
The 37-year-old job seeker was ridiculed in public: what is more terrible than poverty is being poor
He was doing part-time jobs everywhere, even selling blood to make money.
But he never told anyone.
In life, there are always some tears that can only be shed silently, wipe away the tears and stand up tenaciously.
Even in difficult times, Chris maintained his decency, carrying a suit with him wherever he went.
Later, he got an internship in a stock company, without a penny salary, just to take advantage of every opportunity to supplement his professional knowledge.
He lives harder than others, works hard, and always smiles.
Because of this, he can successfully impress the gold master customers and open a wide door for himself.
Everyone will encounter various difficulties in their life, and it is not feasible to rely on others to help them.
Relying on the mountains will fall, relying on everyone will run, it is better to rely on yourself if you ask for help.
Sanmao once said, "People can't help others except to cross themselves."
Those who know how to cross themselves know that only oneself is the greatest support and guarantee.
The 37-year-old job seeker was ridiculed in public: what is more terrible than poverty is being poor
Only when you have the maturity of your own side can you be respected and recognized by others and have more room for development.
As someone said, "No one will pay for your misery. Only by making yourself stronger will your life not collapse."
Life is full of hardships, don't let yourself live so miserably, become a self-pity, need the sympathy of others, and be humble and pity.
To be honest, your wagging tail is not worth anything at all, nor is it worthy of sympathy.
The real value is hard work.
It is those who work hard who are truly deserving of heartache.