Should I work overtime if I’m not married or have a family? Teach you a strategy for refusing to work overtime, it really works
In the workplace, many people feel a conflicted mood on weekends, and this mood comes from two aspects. On the one hand, the thought of being able to do things that I like to do on weekends and holidays, such as watching a movie, gathering for dinner, catching a drama, etc., is very comfortable.
But on the one hand, due to various reasons, I was notified by the leader to work overtime, and the long-awaited good time was instantly ruined, and I felt very "sour and refreshing".
Back then, when I was single, I was repeatedly asked to work overtime by my leaders because I was not married and failed to start a family. Later, I resolutely used this strategy of euphemistically refusing to work overtime, which finally solved the problem of being overtime. .
That day, on Friday afternoon, after finishing a day's work, and seeing that I was about to leave the company for the weekend, I suddenly received a call from the leader, "Come to my office."
As soon as I heard the leader say this, I guessed that there was nothing good in my heart, and came to the leadership's office with the idea of "it's a blessing or a disaster, and it can't be avoided".
"Xiao Shi, are you not married?" The leader asked me as soon as he saw me.
"No, do you have anything to do with the leader?" He replied.
"In this way, I have a work report in hand, I need you to work hard, just give it to me on Monday morning." The leader put forward his idea.
"This... no problem." After hesitating for a long time, he thought about it, and then continued the work.
But I still feel very aggrieved in my heart: why not getting married and starting a family can be equated with working overtime on weekends, this logic is not tenable, it can even be said to be the logic of robbers.
After that "painful" experience, when the leaders call again on the next weekend, I will be more attentive and think about the response plan in advance.
On a weekend, the leader let himself go to the office as usual.
This time, in terms of reaction speed, I deliberately made adjustments. Instead of arriving after shouting, I grumbled for a while, appearing to be very busy, and then came to the leadership's office.
"Xiao Shi, this week's work has been done well, young people should be like this. Next week, the whole company will organize an employee training, and the training implementation plan needs to be prepared in advance. The entire department, you and Xiao Liu are still single, do you think? "The leader is ready to start the arrangement again.
"Thank you for your affirmation of my week's work, as well as the care and training for my growth." I hurriedly put gold on the leader's face.
"But I really can't work overtime this weekend. I have to see the person I introduced to me at home this weekend, or I'll blow it up." I firmly and forcefully refused.
"As for the training plan, I will use the time to collect the training needs of the employees. Next week, we will discuss it together and let me finish the plan. If you are in a hurry, you can find it..." Next, I said came up with an alternative solution to this problem.
After the three procedures were completed, the leader hesitated for a while and said: "Ao, then you should go. But there is one thing, I have to remind you, you can't always think about finding a partner at a young age. Focus on work, go for it."
After meticulous planning, I finally got a game back for my own vital interests.
When it comes to working overtime, especially on weekends, and it's justified by various "wonderful" reasons, it's really a headache. The main reasons come from three aspects:
First, from the company's point of view, the corporate culture dictates . Some companies take weekend overtime and daily overtime as the embodiment of employees' serious and responsible work, diligence and dedication, and publicize overtime as a matter of course. After a long time, not working overtime has become a "sin" .
For example, a company I personally experienced put forward the slogan "Bright lights, bright future", and regarded overtime and staying up late as the main means or even the only way to obtain personal growth and progress.
As a result, it didn't take long for employees to work overtime seriously, but in order to show the leadership, they chose to rely on foreign workers, and there were also more workers. Some of them worked less during the day and fished, and stayed to work overtime at night. This kind of bad work ethos has also appeared, forming a vicious circle.
The second, from the perspective of leadership, is due to work ability . On the one hand, many leaders are not very good at coordinating the overall work, and the work they have arranged cannot be fully allocated to each subordinate.
On the other hand, individual leaders like to have a sense of presence. They think that they are in the office and cannot be a "bare commander". They need to be accompanied by several subordinates, so that the leader can be highlighted.
As the saying goes, "One general is incompetent, and a thousand troops are exhausted." Leaders who often let their subordinates work overtime with their subordinates, unless there are urgent tasks, still have problems in working methods and completion steps. It boils down to the level of personal work ability. is lacking.
Third, from the perspective of oneself, personal interests arise . First of all, it is not ruled out that many employees choose to work overtime for a clear purpose, either to obtain more overtime pay, or to take the opportunity to improve their personal work ability and experience, and to choose the content of overtime.
For example, the core work will often take the initiative to work overtime, and the other chores, such as reporting, making PPT, etc., will not be of much help for personal progress, and they will choose to refuse.
Secondly, choosing to work overtime is to prevent poor performance at work and affect their own growth and progress. For example, if you fail to do some work arranged by the leader that needs to be completed within a specific time node, in addition to being approved, you are more likely to have points deducted or even be dismissed. In this regard, individual employees have to work overtime.
Then, how to tactfully refuse to work overtime for reasons other than one's own subjective reasons? To sum up, there are 3 strategies:
- The buffer should be sufficient ==================================
Respect is the primary premise for interacting with others, especially for one’s own superiors. For the request made by him, whether the subordinate agrees or rejects it, he must take into account the face of the other party, which is conducive to the settlement of follow-up problems.
Otherwise, if you go straight to the point at the beginning and refuse directly, you may be able to solve the problem, but the consequences are likely to offend the leader, which will greatly affect future contacts and exchanges.
For example, in order to mobilize your enthusiasm for work, the leader can easily turn the topic to overtime. At the beginning, it is basically affirmed and praised. At this time, you must stay awake, and at the same time, you must be able to take over the praise given by the leader. And correspondingly say the words of gratitude and gratitude to the leaders, and respond.
In this way, they can have a good start of communication with each other, and create a good communication atmosphere in a short period of time.
- To refuse simply ===================
If your attitude towards the leader's request is vague, you are actually telling the leader in a disguised form: I am still hesitating, give me a firmer reason, if you make further explanations and demands, then I will become Can't refuse and have to agree.
The correct way is that the reasons for the choice are not caused by personal subjective factors, but by objective factors. For example, when parents come to see themselves, the object must meet, the house sales contract must be signed, etc. After letting the other party hear it, they can feel that you are also compelled, reluctant but unable to do anything.
It can be said that the attitude of rejection should be firm, the tone should be relaxed, and the wording should be careful, so as to increase the probability of passing.
- The plan should be reliable ==============================
It cannot be ruled out that sometimes the leader asks you to work overtime, and sometimes it belongs to the situation, and it really needs your help. In this case, it is necessary to help if you can help.
But there are also things that individuals have to deal with, so, relatively speaking, they must be able to come up with a solution that gets the job done. You can take the principle of compromise, shorten the time to deal with your own affairs, and set aside time to deal with work. Although the time may not be sufficient, it can reflect your sincerity.
No matter how bad it is, if it is not urgent and confidential work, you can use weekends to deal with your spare time outside your personal time, and work from home to complete the work.
In addition, a recommendation method can also be adopted to recommend a suitable person to complete the work, but doing so is easy to offend people, so it should be used with caution.
Leaders make subordinates work overtime because of the implementation of the work, the solution of problems, and the plan must be effective and effective in order to get the understanding and support of the leaders.