Most people who speak in these five tones are people with low emotional intelligence. Look at how you usually speak
Speaking is the main way of expression in ordinary communication. If you have the following five tones to speak, it shows that your emotional intelligence is not high. Then you have to study more and pay more attention. Otherwise, you will have low emotional intelligence, and it will be difficult to have a wide range of personal connections, and it will be difficult to make a big difference.
1. Always use a condescending tone when speaking and working with people in general.
When speaking to people in this tone, it gives the impression that they are accepting orders. If you communicate with others in a tone of command among colleagues, not only will they not dump you, but they will not do things for you if they can; At work and in life, Sui is unwilling to accept orders from a peer, nor will he be willing to talk to you, let alone make friends.
Second, ask for help regardless of level and age with a command tone.
If you need help from others, you have to ask others for help, so you should speak in a respectful and consultative tone. If you are not a person with power or status, order someone to help you, even if it is a little effort, because your tone makes people uncomfortable, he will not only not help, but will even see you laughing.
- One's opinion on an issue, regardless of the attitude of others, is always affirmed in a tough tone.
When we often discuss issues and express opinions, often in many cases, everyone expresses their opinions in a negotiated tone, and finally everyone discusses together and comes up with a correct opinion that many people agree with. You don’t care about other people’s emotions and other people’s suggestions, and when you say something, you are sure, but you can’t guarantee what you say is right or wrong;
4. If you have any questions, you need to consult others, but use a questioning tone.
Asking other people's questions requires asking and learning from others. If you ask questions, as if someone else has to give you an answer, or someone else has an obligation and a responsibility to tell you. Then, the emotions of others, or the anger in your heart, will not come to one place. Don't tell me to tell you, if you are not fierce, you are a cultivated person.
5. Always use an impatient tone when communicating with colleagues at work.
In life and work, it is natural for everyone to communicate, coordinate and help each other. When someone communicates with you, you always use an impatient tone, which will bring unpleasantness to others psychologically. No one else will ask you any more questions, and they will stay away from you. Once you encounter problems and difficulties, you will not have someone to help you happily.
In a word, you have the above five ways of speaking. Think back to the people around you. Do these people have poor connections, have fewer friends, and have fewer people who cooperate with each other. Therefore, it is difficult to do become a big deal. In fact, this is all caused by low emotional intelligence. If you have these problems, you should improve and improve quickly, and pay more attention to those who are kind, cheerful, and have many friends to learn. Only in this way can you improve your emotional intelligence and become an individual. people who like you.
