The most heartbreaking unspoken rule in the workplace: the more selfless you are, the more you suffer
The older generation often educates us that it is a blessing to suffer a loss. Don’t be aggressive after going out. It’s not good to suffer a little bit of loss occasionally. In fact, this education model is outdated in modern society, and it will make children run into obstacles everywhere after going out. .
[1] People's original intention is to maximize self-interest
Human nature is self-interest as the center. No matter how loving a person is, he must first be able to support himself and make his life comfortable before he has spare energy to help others. Therefore, self-interest as the center is inevitable.
Only by seeing through the nature of human beings can we get along better with others, instead of blindly sacrificing ourselves.
[2] They all come out to work, don't talk about feelings
In the workplace, this kind of selflessness sometimes not only does not make others feel comfortable, but also makes you feel out of place, because everyone comes out to work, not to talk about feelings.
Since the job has to look like a job, the purpose of the job is to serve the company and earn corresponding remuneration, and there is no need to invest more emotions in it.
Most of the workplaces are just cooperative relationships, just temporary relationships working together for a common benefit.
[3] Paying too much will become a habit
Of course, because human nature is always centered on self-interest, if someone is willing to pay for himself, he will gladly accept it. After a long time, this kind of pay will become numb, it will become a habit, and there will be no deep gratitude. Affection.
So no matter how much you love and like to give, you must master a degree. Don't let others think that this is a habit. If one day you can't do it, it will make others feel that you owe him something.
[4] Sometimes humility is a sign of cowardice
In the workplace, only the relationship of competition and interest is the longest, and sometimes excessive humility will make others think you are cowardly.
That's right, only those who are incompetent will humble others, and those who are capable will surely strive for every opportunity they can get.
Dare not to fight, dare not to grab, blindly retreat, will bring irreversible damage to your career.
[5] Any opportunity in the era of competition is precious
This is an era of competition. Learn to be a mature social person. Don't miss any opportunities. All missed opportunities will be regretted when you look back one day.
We can't just think about ourselves all the time, but we can't just fight for others, we have to fight for what we should strive for.
