'I want to fight, but I can't fight others, what should I do? ': Two kinds of thinking solve the anxiety of newcomers in the workplace
My nephew, born in 1995, just entered the workplace. We had dinner together yesterday and chatted about his work during the meal. He told me that, as a newcomer in the workplace after 1995, he actually understands that the workplace is a river and lake, and he also has a strong sense of competition.
My nephew asked me a question:
Newcomers in the workplace have just entered the workplace, how should they fight with others? What should I do if I can't fight against others?
Hearing this question, I had a conversation with my nephew. First of all, he analyzes the problem itself:
Newcomers who have just entered the workplace are likely to think: I must compete, and only by competition can I get what I want, so I must have a fighting spirit. But this idea will lead to a question: as a newcomer, I have more background, more money, and more people than me. What can I do if I can't fight?
After analyzing my nephew's problem, I made 2 suggestions for him:
As a newcomer, as soon as you enter the workplace, you want to take the initiative to fight with others. There is a high probability that you will not win the fight. It's best to start with a "win-win strategy" to determine the style of doing things.
At the same time, it is also necessary to clearly recognize that the workplace is actually a scene that is not particularly friendly to newcomers, and it is easy to be targeted by others, so a set of strategies is needed to deal with this situation and protect yourself.
So let's start with a new entry into the workplace, how to recognize "win-win thinking" and create a good start:
"I want to fight, but I can't fight others, what should I do?": Two kinds of thinking solve the anxiety of newcomers in the workplace
Give up the "struggle" thinking and use the "win-win" thinking to take the initiative to do things
The workplace is the scene of a career.
It is necessary to have an understanding of the profession itself. Newcomers to the workplace should first have a modern professional spirit and look at the workplace from a modern point of view. Why is there a struggle mentality? It is because of the influence of many inherent old concepts, such as: "It is endless fun to fight with others." The foundation of the modern workplace is not a "court battle field". Modern management systems such as companies are based on a common sharing of interests.
Enterprise is a relationship of "you have me, I have you". Everyone works together in a company. If some contradictions arise or encounter discord, if you think about taking up "weapons" to fight, you can only harm others and not yourself. The thinking of doing things is relatively outdated, and it is impossible to succeed at all.
Therefore, newcomers to the workplace must first deeply understand this basic thinking. I recommended the first book to my nephew: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, which talks about "win-win thinking":
In the book "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People", "win-win thinking" is mentioned: it is to understand empathy, put aside the concept of unilateral winning and losing, adopt a win-win model, and deal with things with enthusiasm on both sides to achieve consistent goals and actions consistent effect.
So how do newcomers in the workplace establish a "win-win" mindset?
- First of all, understand that a win-win situation is a reasonable distribution of interests
In the book "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People", the author gives a good example: two people play wrestling, the rules are who wins the championship, and there is a dollar bonus. The two started to compete. If it is a struggle mentality, then it is very likely that the two will be deadlocked for a long time and there will be no victory or defeat. And replace it with win-win thinking, that is: I win the game and give you a dollar!
The basis of "win-win thinking" is: a reasonable distribution of interests, two people can have their own interests without a fierce "fight".
Newcomers to the workplace understand this effect, and the next step is to understand and act on what is a workplace benefit and what is a reasonable distribution.
- Enter the working situation as soon as possible, and understand in practice how the company's profits are generated
The greatest interest in the workplace is the profit generated by the company. After entering the company, newcomers in the workplace are easily confused by interpersonal relationships because they are actually dealing with a variety of people. In fact, you need to understand "things" first, and then you can understand "people".
In the workplace, the biggest "thing" is that the company generates profits. This requires an understanding of the workflow as soon as possible, not only the workflow involving oneself, but also the workflow of the entire company as much as possible. In this way, you can gain a deep understanding of how the best interests of the company are generated.
- Know the enemy and understand yourself: familiar with your own job responsibilities, but also familiar with the job responsibilities of colleagues
In win-win thinking, maturity is the ability to express your own emotions and beliefs while being considerate of the thoughts and feelings of others.
As a newcomer in the workplace, if you want to understand the thoughts and feelings of leaders and colleagues, you must first understand the position of the other party, that is, the position.
In the end, win-win is not a technique, but a philosophy of relationships. As the starting point of your own workplace thinking, a starting point for your own basic behavior. However, many newcomers to the workplace will ask:
I use win-win thinking, what if others don't use win-win thinking? I am good to others, but others want to fight me, what should I do?
This needs to be viewed in two ways, and it needs to be approached from a paradoxical point of view. My advice: use modern "win-win" thinking as your own proactive style. Use traditional Chinese wisdom to protect yourself.
Modern thinking goes out to do things, traditional thinking defends life.
"I want to fight, but I can't fight others, what should I do?": Two kinds of thinking solve the anxiety of newcomers in the workplace
- Using traditional Chinese wisdom, 4 tricks to prevent "workplace villains" from hurting themselves
Newcomers in the workplace need to protect themselves while making progress with modern "win-win" thinking at work. The win-win thinking is that you are "right to things and not people", but to prevent others from "doing wrong to people and things" to you, this often requires the use of traditional Chinese wisdom.
Taiwan's famous management guru Zeng Shiqiang is a promoter of Chinese-style management thinking.
Chinese-style management refers to the proper application of modern western management science with Chinese management philosophy, and full consideration of Chinese cultural traditions and psychological behavior characteristics to achieve better management effects.
Mr. Zeng Shiqiang's "The Life Wisdom of Guiguzi" once proposed some traditional Chinese management philosophies to deal with more complex interpersonal relationships in the workplace. Among them, there are 4 tricks that are more suitable for newcomers in the workplace to protect themselves and prevent the villains in the workplace.
Step 1: Take harmony as the most precious thing, and regard it as transparency.
If you encounter other people's hardships, you have to establish a thinking, that is, harmony is the most valuable. The starting point of newcomers in the workplace is not to make things bigger, but to alleviate this contradiction. , there is no way to have both, if you blindly think about fighting back and revenge, things tend to get bigger and bigger, especially when you don’t have a strong background, your aggressiveness will be stronger, and you will provoke other people’s desire to fight. is miserable.
The second trick: the surface is reasonable, but the heart keeps a distance.
When you find that a person has a personality problem, or that colleagues around you are unwilling to pay attention to him, then you should stay away from him, usually this person will have a very small mind. Once he has a bad attitude towards him, he will keep it in his heart, hide in the dark, and when you are unprepared, he will jump out and "bite" you fiercely and catch you off guard.
Step 3: Learn to be patient and control your emotions.
For "workplace villains", we must have the patience to endure humiliation. They are often hidden deep and wealthy. Even if they do something bad, it is not so obvious. If you have to attack first, even if you tear your face, you still don’t know where to use your strength, just like hitting cotton with a fist. Such people often have no bottom-line principle, and it is better to tolerate everything for the time being.
Step 4: As a last resort, counterattack in time.
Guiguzi once said that all traitors in the world do not secretly change. The villain is in the dark and we are in the open. The treacherous and evil often secretly change their bad behavior, waiting to attack. Guiguzi teaches us: move with your will and know its strategy. When we fight back against the villain, we must observe the other party, speculate on the way the other party acts, grasp his strategy, and not be confused by the villain, so that we can pursue the victory. When the villain's bad behavior is exposed at the right time, and the villain is treated with his own way, the villain will be much more honest.