The experience of the elderly in the workplace, don't get too close to colleagues, understand these three points to avoid losses
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When encountering difficulties at work, most young people will immediately ask their colleagues for help in a low voice, but more colleagues end up with refusal; so most young people, in order to get help from colleagues smoothly at work, will deliberately Close the relationship with colleagues; maybe the relationship with colleagues is good, it will be more convenient to do things in the company, but if you get along with colleagues more, there will be constant disputes between everyone; you must understand the best relationship between colleagues , When encountering the same trouble, there will also be different opinions and viewpoints. If it causes colleagues to disagree, then the relationship between colleagues will only gradually drift away; in the real workplace, the only way to deal with colleagues is to maintain standards, It can make the relationship last longer.
Some time ago, my friend Xiaoyun, because the company was adjusting its business, had to choose to be forced to leave; because Xiaoyun did not find a suitable job for a long time, in order to subsidize the living expenses, Xiaoyun chose to be a micro-business; The second time I sent a message on WeChat, there was always a large series of sticker ads, which made people look particularly upset. Since the two were good friends, I had to choose to be patient; after about half a year, Xiaoyun suddenly stopped doing micro-blogs. After chatting with Xiaoyun, she found that she had hoarded more than 20,000 yuan of goods in order to become a micro-business, but she did not sell much in the end; and the most sad thing for Xiaoyun was that she initially gave it to her best friend. The advertiser thought that he could sell the product by virtue of his relationship, but in exchange, he was blocked by a friend.
Through the above example, you can know that the more frequent communication between colleagues, whether it is work or advertising, will make the relationship between colleagues become extremely bad; because the relationship between friends is very good, it is most likely to happen things that go too far; and colleagues When asking for help, more people will definitely give priority to asking for help from colleagues who have a good relationship. This is also the essence and law of human nature; originally colleagues helped each other, and there was nothing to do. The beginning of help will be appreciated, but the contact Too many times will make your situation difficult; the following editor will share with you the three points that you need to understand when dealing with colleagues. Friends who want to know, please follow the editor to take a look. !
- A good coworker relationship requires keeping a distance
In the fable "Hedgehogs hug together to keep warm", there is a group of little hedgehogs that are about to freeze to death. They want to hug each other in order to resist the cold, but the closer they get, the more damage it will cause to both parties. If you are too far away, you will feel cold. The same is true in interpersonal relationships. If the relationship between colleagues is too close, various differences will occur. Once you stay close to your colleagues in the company, you will face competition. When things go wrong, they will also cause mutual harm. Whether it is material or spiritual, there are many things that are reluctant between colleagues. If you want to maintain the relationship between colleagues, you should keep a distance from your colleagues. Protect yourself and respect your colleagues.
Second, colleagues should abide by the bottom line and proportion
If you want to keep a good distance from your colleagues, you must understand the bottom line and measure of getting along with your colleagues, especially all kinds of gossip about colleagues, most of which are about private matters in life; maybe gossip about private matters is what colleagues care most about However, once you participate too much in this kind of thing, you will also have some comments more or less; once you say comments from your own mouth, you will get burned; whether it is overheard gossip, It is still the gossip that colleagues share with you, and you should try to avoid comments. If you cannot avoid such a thing, you should try not to speak so that you can protect yourself; as long as you keep the bottom line and measure of your non-participation, you can hurt your colleagues. The relationship between.
- Understand the standards of proportion and bottom line among colleagues
Maybe those smart people in the workplace understand that they need to abide by the sense of proportion and the bottom line, but more people do not grasp the sense of proportion and the bottom line; they must have a psychological expectation in their hearts for what others think and do about themselves; When a colleague annoys you, you can't express disgust at the first time. You can only improve your own tolerance and choose tolerance and avoidance in dealing with others, which can effectively avoid conflicts between colleagues; when there is disagreement between colleagues When the time comes, everyone must understand when the other party can get angry, grasp the bottom line standard, as long as you avoid infringing on the bottom line of others, and let yourself be a measured person, colleagues will get along more friendly.