In the workplace, in addition to learning professional skills, we need to learn how to get along. No matter what position we are in in the future, we must consider the knowledge of getting along with the boss.

Although no one dares to admit this workplace truth, it is true that to a certain extent, everyone's career future is determined by the boss. Because you have to satisfy him before you can get a promotion and raise your salary.

How to handle the relationship with the boss is very important.

1. There are 7 rules in the leader's mind, which are minefields that you cannot overcome. Do you know that? ===========================================================================================================

1. The boss is the biggest

The boss is the biggest, it is the eternal workplace rule. When the boss speaks, as a manager, you should eliminate all the thoughts that make you nervous and listen intently. Don't keep your head down, keep your eyes on the boss, and make a little note if necessary. After the boss has finished speaking, you can think for a moment, or ask a question or two to really understand his intention, and then summarize the content of the boss's conversation, indicating that you have understood his opinion, which not only shows your enthusiasm and level , but also respect for the boss.

If you encounter a major meeting, when the manager is presenting the work or project in charge, no matter what the circumstances, even if your opinion is adopted by the boss, you must not go around shouting that these ideas were originally yours. All ideas will eventually become the boss's decision, and everything is issued in his name. Therefore, your goal has actually been achieved, and you must not be resentful because of this, otherwise, even the people who listen to your complaints will be against you. You are dismissive.

Remember, bosses don't like people who are slow-thinking and need to be repeatedly warned. Managers should show proper respect to the boss and don't steal his rights, responsibilities and honors.

2. Keep a safe distance from leaders

No matter how the leader calls you brothers, don't be fooled by the illusion, and don't really think that you are the leader's brother. A leader is a leader. Don't know how high the sky is and how thick the sky is because of a good relationship, or even put your nose on your face! No matter what level of relationship you have with your leadership, be cautious and keep your distance from your leadership appropriately.

When you get close to the leader, you will inevitably be tempted by the leader. When the leader often gives you power tentatively, don't take it seriously! You must not do anything beyond your authority. This is a minefield. Be careful to explode if you enter the minefield by mistake! Consequences at your own risk!

3. The grievance in the boss's heart

If you become a manager one day, you must know that the decision of the company's personnel changes is in the hands of the boss. Whether the work goals will change in the future depends on whether the manager himself works hard and whether he maintains an appropriate "scale" with the boss.

Even so, managers need to adapt to the boss's style as quickly as possible. Managers do their best to do things well at work, but at the same time keep an appropriate distance from the boss, especially in terms of psychological distance, maintain their attractiveness to the boss and the boss's sense of mystery, which can reduce the distance between employees and employees or subordinates. Indiscriminate suspicion with subordinates to avoid unnecessary fights.

The status of managers and bosses in the enterprise is completely different, and managers must know this. Don't make the relationship too close to get involved in the boss's private life; don't lose the sense of intimacy and trust due to indifference to the boss, it is the best state to be distant.

Managers should keep in mind that they must not regard their boss as their "true friend". What you need at work is a leader, never a true confidant. Having a good relationship with your boss is consistent with your creative and productive work, and you are doing your best for your boss by doing your due diligence.

4. No matter how strong you are, don't forget to be grateful

Small A has strong ability and strong execution. She has good abilities in all aspects, but A basically never appreciates the help provided to her by people in the team, because she feels that she is capable, so she considers all the credit for all the projects she is in charge of as her own. For a long time, there were fewer and fewer people willing to help her, and she left the company after she was exhausted and unhappy.

Little B's ability is average, not a particularly flexible girl, but she is very solid in her work. Because she feels that she is a novice in the workplace, she will express her gratitude to all those who help her. Because she knows how to be grateful, her colleagues around her are willing to help her. She has received more and more projects, and her work ability has been exercised more and more. getting stronger. In the company for three years, she has accumulated a good reputation in the company, so she was first recommended by her boss to participate in overseas training, and she was promoted to a management position after returning to China.

No one in this society is obligated to teach you anything, and your boss spends his precious time teaching you. You know, time is the most precious non-renewable resource for everyone. Your gratitude, for him, is a kind of respect for the energy he has put in. Your coworker is just as busy as you are every day, but he is willing to take the time to help you, and his generosity is also worthy of your respect. So learn to be grateful and thank others for their help. You will find that your luck will get better and better because of gratitude.

5. Don't take three ideas

(1) Make project investment decisions without staff leaders

Your position is relatively low, and the pattern is not as big as that of the leader, so you don't have the leader to see far and see accurately. At this time, you are feeding the leader. It is very likely that your wallet will affect the leader first, and finally the next stage, thereby affecting the leader's decision-making on the project.

(2) Do not talk about personal matters by staff leaders

When it comes to the leader's private affairs, don't give the leader a blind counselor to prevent him from burning himself.

(3) How to run a campaign without staff

This kind of thing is related to the future of the leader. It is better not to be a staff officer at your level. There is a saying that is very good. If you are not at the level, don't be ridiculous.

6. You can't forget these 3 things when you get along with your leaders

(1) Don't forget the explanation from the leader before the business trip

Under normal circumstances, the things that the leader tells you before the business trip are things that the leader feels uneasy. During the leader’s business trip, no matter whether the leader has time to read your report, you must use the method that the leader can see, such as mobile phone. Text messages, WeChat, email, etc. tell him to explain the progress of the matter and make a timely report.

(2) Don't forget the confession after the leader's criticism

In general, what the leader will explain after criticizing the subordinate is what you pay attention to or need to improve. Take this as the focus or focus of your next work, and report the results to the leader in a timely manner.

(3) Don't forget the explanation of the leader when arranging the work

The leader's special explanation when arranging work must be prone to mistakes, or where problems often occur. Don't be sloppy. Don't believe that you have more experience than the leader, and sometimes the leader is indeed smarter than you.

7. Don’t talk nonsense while executing

Compared with the ability to express, the subordinates with high execution ability are more liked by the boss. When ordering something to go down, subordinates usually behave in two ways.

A subordinate will figure out the difficulties that will be encountered in carrying out this matter, and then start to talk to you about it. Because of the difficulty, he had reason to execute slowly.

Another kind of subordinate is the kind of people with strong execution ability. They will continue to execute. When there is a difficulty in the execution process, they will actively find a way to solve it. If it cannot be solved, he will objectively explain the difficulty to you and ask for assistance.

If you are the boss, you also like the strong execution right? So when you need to do it, don't talk nonsense, just do it.

Second, these leaders will not tell you the unspoken rules, you must have a bottom line

1. Flattery is actually a compliment

Everyone has preferences. For example, my favorite NBA basketball team is the Spurs, but some people like the Lakers, and some people like the Rockets. Well then, at a party, it happened to be the playoffs, if all three teams were in the group and they were opponents, then the leader just liked the Rockets, but the Rockets actually lost to the Spurs , the leadership is very unhappy. Usually, if you recognize it after reading the book, the fan forum will be closed, but the result is just the opposite. The tear is in full swing, and a small foul can be hacked for a week. The leader just happens to have a good job at hand. He can give me and a colleague of Lakers fans (not directly met), who do you think he will give?

So a friend told me that it is better for a colleague to just flatter, but during the promotion process, the company even promoted him/her, which is very contemptuous and disdainful, but unable to do anything. This is to say that everyone has their own preferences and preferences. The advantage of these people who are good at flattering is that they can see the preferences of leaders, and then choose what they like. Everyone likes to be recognized, this is human nature.

Everyone likes such a person, so why can't leaders like them? Since you want to promote people, of course you can improve your ability, and the people you like will cooperate more smoothly with you in the future.

2. Work performance should be known to everyone

Don't believe in the truth that gold always shines in the workplace.

Yes, you have a great job performance and good relationships, but why is your boss still lukewarm to you? You must know that the boss's world is much bigger than yours. What he sees is the overall situation and the work performance of N employees, and what you face is only yourself. If you don't properly publicize your performance, your boss is likely to ignore your performance. It's the workplace code to be right to the right person, but there are not many bosses who can really do this.

Workplace psychology experts believe that subjective impressions trump objective results in the workplace, especially when working under a female boss.

Maybe you will be confused: his performance is obviously not as good as mine, why does the boss treat him better than me? Very simple, he will maximize his self-promotion on the basis of limited performance! If you master this workplace truth, excellent performance coupled with self-marketing will naturally make your workplace icing on the cake!

Tip: The best form of self-promotion is to communicate regularly and keep your boss updated on your progress. Of course, taking advantage of personal opportunities appropriately and telling the boss a little story you encounter at work will also have a good effect!

As the saying goes, "the friendship between gentlemen is as fresh as water", and I think this applies not only to employees and bosses in an enterprise, but also to managers and bosses. Especially the middle management and senior management in the enterprise, as the management in the enterprise, they have a lot of time and opportunities to contact the boss, but how to keep a proper distance from the boss and let the boss in a very "artistic" way To trust you, and it will not keep you away from the boss's sight, to become a leader in the enterprise and the workplace, which requires the management to have a certain amount of internal training.