The workplace is a place full of competition, in which we must be cautious in our words and deeds.

The purpose of this is not to "compete for love", after all, this is not a palace fight drama, but for us to get along better with our colleagues, which is conducive to work progress, and thus to career development.

There is a saying that goes, "The highest realm of a person in the workplace is to know the world but not the world."

Knowing the world is very, very important. You don't have to do things both ways, but you must understand.

I have been in the workplace for so many years, and I have seen the ups and downs of too many people. Some people only know how to work conscientiously when they enter the workplace, but they have offended many people invisibly. In the end, they can only stay where they are, and their careers become narrower and narrower. .

There are also people who, while trying to improve their skills, are constantly observing and thinking about the people and things around them, and they eventually win popularity and are promoted faster.

In the workplace, we don't need to be troubled by our own future. We should be sophisticated when we need to be sophisticated, and we can't just admit it when we need to be brave. The man who can bend and stretch is the man. Those who are controlled by emotions and have no plan are just reckless behaviors, which are harmful to work and life.

Unfortunately, when I first entered the workforce, I was the former, and when I was young and vigorous, I always said some uncomfortable things and offended many people. Fortunately, I met a reliable leader who gave me a lot of guidance in dealing with people.

Today, I will share with you 3 things that should not be said in the workplace and in life. The more you say, the more despised you are. Hope to inspire you.

splashing cold water

Every company has a person who likes to pour cold water on others. You share your favorite things with them, and you get negative feedback or even disdain; you show them a work plan, but they attack you for failing to complete it immediately; even If you recommend a movie to them, they will all say that you have poor aesthetics.

It is conceivable that over time everyone will not contact him, and the popularity is definitely the worst in the company.

Humans are social animals, and it is in our nature to seek a sense of identity. When others share with you what they are proud of, it must feel like approval. Even if you don't like it, you should praise it politely, instead of pouring a pot of cold water to drown out the joy of others.

"The Analects of Confucius" says that "the gentleman is harmonious but different, the villain is the same but not harmonious", just as there are no two identical leaves in this world, everyone's ideas can't be exactly the same, we must respect everyone's views on things views and opinions.

It is extremely easy to deny other people's views and opinions, but people who really have a pattern know the truth of "harmony but difference".

In the workplace or in life, give some encouragement and praise to the people around you, instead of pouring cold water, you will find that interpersonal relationships will become very simple, and you will be more comfortable in dealing with problems.

exaggeration

People who like to say exaggerated words will not be trusted by others, and will arouse their disgust.

In the workplace, some people like to take credit in front of their leaders and turn an 8 out of 10 into a 10; some people like to exaggerate their talents in front of their colleagues for vanity. After listening to it too much, everyone will just laugh it off, just like listening to a joke, so as to form a consensus: what he said should not be taken seriously.

We have heard the story of "the wolf is coming" since childhood, but there are always people who make similar mistakes. When the wolf really arrives, you will find that there is no one around you to rely on.

People who like to exaggerate and make fuss are often hypocritical and selfish.

They sing better than they do. When they have credit, they take it from themselves, but when they have responsibility, they push it on others. In order to satisfy their own imagination, they do not hesitate to use their imagination to make up stories and deceive everyone.

But in the eyes of such a person, he is nothing more than a grandstanding clown, a person who cannot be trusted. When the real crisis comes, no one will help him, and he will only be swallowed by the crisis or eliminated in the workplace.

opinionated words

American psychologist George Kelly believes that everyone has personal constructs , which are simply everyone's views, interpretations and opinions about the world around them, and these are related to people's experiences and thinking.

Everyone's cognition is related to past experience, and a stubborn person is a person with relatively simple cognition, which means that his personal construct is relatively simple.

Stubborn people are like shutting down all perception systems in their communication with others. No matter what the other party says or how reasonable it is, they will not accept it.

In their world, they believe that there can only be one answer to a thing, and that only oneself is right.

It is conceivable that this kind of person is difficult to cooperate with others, and other people will try to stay away from them except for hating them.

Stubborn people tend to have a very small vision. The smaller the vision, the more stubborn, the more stubborn and ignorant. They seem to be caught in a vicious circle, locking themselves into small cognitions.

There is an essential difference between perseverance and stubbornness. Persistent people focus on their own goals, and in the process of achieving their goals, they will listen to other people's suggestions; while stubborn people are only insisting on their own emotions, and their actions are controlled by emotions.

Therefore, stubborn people are often people who are hated and despised by others.

The workplace is like a sound bar, what kind of sound you emit, what kind of sound you will receive.

People who do well in the workplace not only pass the test of hard power, but also have great soft power. Soft power refers to the ability to behave in the world, interpersonal communication, and emotional control.

Studies have shown that 20% of a person's success depends on IQ, and 80% on emotional intelligence.

Emotional intelligence is an important part of soft power. If you improve your emotional intelligence, your interpersonal relationships will be more handy, and your career will become wider and wider.