The programmer's monthly salary is 20,000, and his girlfriend wants a house of 300,000 betrothal gifts.
Now, after working in the society for many years, there are more and more young people who actually do not get along very well, because they can't find high-paying jobs, and after working in the society for a few years, they see themselves, colleagues and classmates. The gap between them is getting bigger and bigger, then they will think that they may always be at the bottom of the society in the first-tier cities, especially when they are dating, they will also be ridiculed by the blind date and the love object.
Recently, I saw a programmer with a monthly salary of 20,000 sharing his work experience in a first-tier city. Now this programmer has worked in an Internet company for three years with a monthly salary of 20,000, but he and his girlfriend have been in love for 5 years. When I was talking about marriage, my girlfriend even asked for a betrothal gift of 300,000 yuan, and also asked the programmer to buy at least a house of 1 million yuan, so that he could leave the first-tier cities and return to his hometown for development.
After negotiating many times with his girlfriend to no avail, the programmer claimed that the marriage should not end, because he thought that he could get a high salary in a first-tier city, but in fact, he had to rely on platforms and big companies. Without a high-paying job, the key is that he is not willing to take such a high betrothal gift, and he has no money to buy a house.
the author thinks:
After entering the workplace or social work, many young people do a lot of things and perform a lot of tasks, but they are still criticized, then these young people will think that they are not getting better development, so they will also complain to each other , I always feel that I have the ability, but I am not able to be valued, and I will be very ordinary in the workplace.
Especially when talking about marriage, these young people will see that their marriage partners will compare up or down. Everyone always thinks that their classmates get along well, and they have a house and a car. The key is to be able to provide them when they get married. A lot of betrothal gifts, then if you don’t take advantage of it during this time period, you will suffer in the future. In fact, more and more young people have this kind of thinking, so they must be the ones who will suffer the most in the end, because they will only find out in the end. One party can't afford to play, and those young people with high emotional intelligence generally know how to deal with the world. They are good at dealing with others when dealing with any troubles, so they are able to navigate the new work environment or living environment with ease.
Therefore, the author also suggests that the programmer should sit down and negotiate with his girlfriend, because if one of the parties feels that the standards or conditions are unfair, then there must be a problem with the standards. Getting married and having children and becoming a family is actually a major event in life. If everyone can't adapt to each other, then it will definitely have only disadvantages and no advantages for future marriages and families. Therefore, everyone should sort out these things clearly before getting married, so that each other will not be able to get along with each other. will always be in a state of tension.