Doing this to your co-workers often shows that you despise you in your heart
In the workplace, there is such a colleague who usually seems to have a good relationship with you. He always likes to laugh at you and make fun of you in front of others.
I always like to show off in front of you, whether it is a newly bought bag or a leader praised, he can't wait to show it off in front of you.
You are more than happy to help him when he asks you for help. But when you ask him for help, he often shirks and even ignores your presence.
He will not take the initiative to introduce you to friends he knows, nor will he say good things about you in front of the leader. Such colleagues seem to have a good relationship with you on the surface, but they look down on you on the inside.
Why do you say that? The following will help you analyze them one by one.
Doing this to your co-workers often shows that you despise you in your heart
always mocking you in front of others
Have you ever found that someone around you always likes to tell your embarrassing things in front of others and take you as a joke? It looks like he's just joking with you, but he actually despises you in his heart.
Just imagine, if you respect and admire a person and care about the other person's feelings, how can you take him as a joke?
A friend was discussing business with a boss. During lunch, he ordered some side dishes at the hotel, and he did not order wine. Friends know that many southern businessmen do not drink alcohol during business meetings, so they just dine casually.
After the meal, the boss asked the waiter to pack the rest of the food and drove out of the hotel with his friends.
Along the way, the boss drove the car very slowly, looking around at something. When the friend was wondering, the boss stopped the car, took the packaged food, got out of the car and walked to a beggar, and handed the package of food to the beggar with both hands.
The moment the friend saw the boss hand the food to the beggar, he almost burst into tears.
No matter what the identity of the other party is, if you respect a person from the heart, you will not always ridicule him. Even if it is a joke, he will take care of the other party's feelings and will not treat the other party as a joke.
like to show off in front of you
Face is something that most people like and love, and some even think that face is more important than life.
Some people always like to show off and show off in front of others, the purpose is to suppress others, and then highlight their sense of superiority and make themselves look good.
When choosing targets to suppress, he would definitely not choose those who were stronger than himself, but would only choose those targets that he looked down on in his heart.
If there is such a person around you who often flaunts himself in front of you, it means that he despises you in his heart.
Chen Daoming said this: "The person who goes up the mountain should never look down on the person who goes down, because he has been beautiful before, and the person on the mountain should not look down on the person under the mountain, because they will climb up, so they must be themselves."
Between people, colleagues and colleagues, there is simply nothing to show off. Those who are really strong will just work hard and have no time to show off.
Only those weak people need to seek a sense of existence by suppressing others, even if such people do not pay.
deliberately neglect you, ignore your existence
Those who look down on you in their hearts will not look down on you out of sympathy and interest when you are still valuable.
They will even treat you very well. These people are wolves in sheep's clothing. They are gentlemen on the surface, but they often gossip behind their backs.
There is a law in psychology called "the law of unworthiness". If a person is engaged in something that he thinks is not worthwhile, he will often take a cynical and perfunctory attitude.
This is also a good illustration. When the other party thinks that you are still valuable, he is willing to pretend to be good to you, which is beneficial to him, and he thinks it is worth doing.
Once you find that you are no longer valuable, you will be directly exposed, and you will subconsciously think that interacting with you is a waste of time and energy, and you will show deliberate neglect or ignore your existence in behavior.
reluctant to introduce you to his friends
Most people have such a habit of taking the initiative to share with everyone the people or things they like, agree with, and respect. This is why social networks are so popular, this is human nature.
If a person has a very good relationship with you on the surface, in front of his friends, he is not willing to introduce you to the other party. That can explain one thing, that is, he thinks that you are unworthy, or that you are not qualified to know his friends.
Usually a good relationship with you is just a disguise, or based on some purpose.
If it is a couple relationship, after getting along for a period of time, you still refuse to introduce you to his relatives and friends, then you should pay attention, maybe you are a spare tire.
Learning to discover in the workplace which colleagues are genuinely leading you and who are colleagues who are not on the outside is also a skill that must be learned.