Whether life is open or cracked depends on these three points!
I am a little happy, that more and more readers will come to chat with me, confide their thoughts, and it feels good to be trusted by others.
Maybe this is also how a person grows up. We are more willing to confide our hearts to strangers, but keep our mouths shut to those around us.
Two nights ago, a reader sent me a WeChat message: Uncle Ha, I haven't been home for the New Year for two years, and I'm hesitating whether to go back to my hometown this year.
In the morning of the next day, we chatted a lot, and in him, I saw many shadows of the "fear of returning people".
The reason why he didn't want to go home was because he felt ashamed to go back. He used to be the pride of his parents and one of the few college students in the village, but now in his early thirties, he has no bricks and tiles, no wife and children, and nothing has been accomplished.
Every time I go home, my relatives and neighbors will always urge to buy a house, get married, have children, and come back when I can't get along outside...
Although there is no malice, these words made him blushing and speechless. It is not so easy to buy a house, and there is no object to be found, so he has been hiding in the name of overtime for the past two years and will not go back.
The proud son who once left home, now the wanderer who is afraid of returning, life is not easy, his pride is gone, he is homesick and wants to escape.
I once read this sentence in an article:
Those who are afraid of returning, who are unwilling to attend class reunions, and those who want to stay away from acquaintances, either have their lives broken or their lives cracked, and the vast majority of people belong to the latter.
I agree with this.
Therefore, I also want to take the opportunity to talk about whether a person's life is open or cracked, which mainly depends on what factors?
I have thought about this question carefully, and I think there are three main points.
Whether life is open or cracked depends on these three points!
01
Choice is greater than effort: neither too particular nor too general will do
The world has never been short of hard-working people, but there are still people who have a bad life.
Many times, if you don't work hard, you will have good results, because the choice is often greater than the effort.
That's why some people say that the important things in life are often just a few steps. If you choose the right one, you will often avoid many detours and have a completely different life.
As the old saying goes, men are afraid of entering the wrong profession, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man. The choice of work and marriage is very important. These two almost occupy our entire life.
Many people do not work hard enough, nor are they talented enough, but they make the wrong choice, enter a bad industry, work in a bad company, and follow unreliable people.
This is not to find reasons for the mediocre status quo of some people. This is the truth. That's why there is a saying that trees are moved to death and people are moved to life.
So, how to move the nest? When will you move the nest?
My advice is: don't be too particular, and don't be too fussy.
There are two main aspects to "don't be too particular about it": First, don't think about reaching the sky in one step, and you won't go anywhere; second, don't always think too good, without a job without grievances and hard work.
There are also two aspects to "don't be too complacent": first, don't work for the sake of work, without considering industry prospects, personal promotion, and development; second, don't stay in a nest and mess around.
As with work, so with love and marriage.
There is no perfect person in this world, so don't be too picky, but don't be too stubborn, just ask to be alive, and don't look at anything else. Getting married for the sake of marriage is not advisable.
To a certain extent, marriage and love can determine the quality of our life more than work. If you choose well, your life will open up and you will be happy; if you choose badly, your life will be cracked and riddled with holes.
May you take those crucial steps in life, it is very important.
Whether life is open or cracked depends on these three points!
02
The pattern determines the ending, don't just focus on the present and lose the future
Many cracked lives are because the pattern is too small and the vision is too short-sighted.
A while ago, a reader came to chat with me. He was 37 years old, and the company where he worked was not very profitable. He was also among them after cleaning up a group of people.
When a person reaches middle age, he suddenly becomes a homeless person. It's not very comfortable to put it on anyone, but what frustrates him even more is that he doesn't know what to do next, he doesn't know what he can do, and he is very confused. !
In the end, he concluded by himself that he didn't blame others, he just blamed himself for living so comfortably these years. If he had taken that step, it might be completely different now.
The step he mentioned happened six years ago.
At that time, one of his classmates asked him to come out and do something together. Considering that the current job is relatively stable, although the industry is going downhill, but the company is a listed company, it is impossible to say that it will collapse, and the risk of starting a business is too great, so did not come out.
Today, his friend's career is booming, but he even lost his job and regrets it in his heart.
Telling the story of this reader, I am not encouraging everyone to start a business, but I hope everyone can understand that the ending of many things is caused by the pattern.
For example, a businessman wants to make money in front of his eyes and sell fake and defective products. Although the profit is large, it will not last long. If you want to make money for a long time, you must have quality assurance and credibility.
This is how life is. If you only focus on what you are doing, you will suffer in the future. If you have a bigger picture and see farther, then you may have a good life.
So, don't just focus on the comfort in front of you and forget about struggle and hard work; don't lose the bottom line and principles of being a person because of a little benefit...
A lifetime is very long, and temporary success is not worth showing off. Remember not to focus on the present and lose the future. This is a very uneconomical business.
Whether life is open or cracked depends on these three points!
03
Ability and mix are important
I have to admit that the world is not just about strength, relationships are also very important.
The cooperation between many people and the exchanges between many companies are not simply determined based on strength and interests, but also feelings, which is what we call "relationships".
There is a friend who used to be the marketing director of a company. Later, he came out and opened an advertising company, which developed well.
A lot of his company's business comes from the contacts and relationships accumulated over the years. He himself once said that in terms of company strength, we are not the best, and we don't have much competitive advantage, but I am better than knowing people who can make decisions. .
Some people may find it disdainful, but I tell you, being able to manage interpersonal relationships is also a kind of ability, and networking is a kind of soft power.
There is no shortage of hard-working people in this world, and there is no shortage of excellent people. Unless you really stand out from the crowd and are a lot smarter than others, why should you give you a chance? This is a question worth thinking about.
Competence is important, but so is the ability to deal with people.
I'm not teaching you to be tactful, but I hope you can look at social interaction normally and don't reject it, because many people have prejudice against it, and this prejudice has added a lot of cracks in his life.
In the animal world, the strong prey on the weak, and in human society, such an ecology is also obvious and inevitable.
Therefore, you must not only be strong, but also have more assistance. Doing things for others is also a kind of ability, and this will sometimes have a decisive impact on our lives.
If you're feeling anxious and want to make a change, but don't know how, I hope this article has helped you a little.