All the misfortunes in life are because you can't control yourself

I received a message from a reader in the background:

Uncle Ha, after reading an article you wrote about self-discipline, I am very touched. I feel like this is just talking about me. I am a very unconscious person. I am preparing for the first exam this year, but I can't control myself. I can't read the book, I can't put my phone down, I can't calm down, I feel like I'm useless.

I didn’t reply to this message, mainly because I didn’t know how to reply to him. Let’s be reasonable. In fact, everyone understands the truth. Let’s talk about the method.

To tell the truth, in this world, there are too many people like this, they understand the truth, and the direction is clear, but they can't control themselves, and the gap between people is finally widened. in this way.

To put it more directly, almost all the misfortunes in this world are caused by being unable to control themselves.

All the misfortunes in life are because you can't control yourself

01

I can't control my emotions (life)

One of my friends, Lao Yang, is a brother and a friend.

The biggest problem with him is that his temper is too irritable, and he has a big temper. He belongs to the type of "Meng Zhangfei".

In August last year, it was also such a summer. I went out with a few friends to make skewers in the evening. Because of a trivial matter, I started a hand with a group of people at the next table.

Old Yang, who had been a soldier for a few years, was very fierce. He broke the leg of the other guy, more than 20 stitches were stitched on his head, and his internal organs were injured. I don't know the specific circumstances of the injury.

I know clearly that he lost 200,000 yuan, including medical expenses. In fact, he didn't have much money. For an ordinary office worker, part of the 200,000 yuan was taken by his family, including our friends.

If he can manage his emotions well, he won't make such a big mess. Lao Yang himself regrets it very much, but many times, things go wrong, and regret can't restore the loss.

There is a saying: A man's temper affects his career, and a woman's temper affects her marriage.

Whether it is in life or work, many misfortunes, disappointments, and unhappiness are caused by failing to manage emotions.

Zhang Fei's death is a good proof.

All the misfortunes in life are because you can't control yourself

02

I can't control my laziness (life)

Human instinct is to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, that is, to like comfort, but to be lazy.

On the surface, there is no difference between excellent people and mediocre people, but as long as you get along for a while, you will find:

Good people are better than others because they can control their inertia better than most.

Many people often shout that they are confused and don't know what to do. In fact, let's ask ourselves, are you really confused?

You are not confused, but you are just too lazy. You know that you have to study hard to prepare for the exam. If you get a certificate, you can have another way out. You know that you have to work hard to improve your business ability.

You clearly know all the truth, and you clearly know where the direction is going, but you just can't control yourself, you are too lazy to move, and you don't want to fight.

Because the upward road is more difficult to walk, more tiring, it is better to lie down comfortably.

In fact, when I was young, I was most afraid of abandoning myself like this, because all the misfortunes in life and work in the future were caused by not accumulating and working hard when I was young.

Remember this sentence: There are really not so many geniuses in this world. You can only be truly brilliant if you work hard with your life.

All the misfortunes in life are because you can't control yourself

03

I can't control my mouth (body)

With the increase of age, the work intensity is also greater, and more and more attention is paid to the body.

I made a bet with the people around me over how long I would lose weight, but we never won, but lost quite a few meals.

Even for a while, I went to the gym every night, sweating like rain, but the flesh on my body was reluctant to leave.

People are also very hardworking, often exhausted, but it doesn't work. The reason for this misfortune is that they can't keep their mouths shut.

I am a very greedy person. I have no resistance in the face of food. Sometimes I write articles until late at night, and I will go out with friends for two drinks, shabu-shabu hot pot, and eat crayfish.

The coach said that if you can't keep your mouth shut during weight loss, it's useless no matter how hard you practice.

I understand the reasoning, but the behavior is uncontrollable.

In fact, many physical problems are caused by not being able to control one's mouth, and another reason is staying up late.

On the issue of staying up late, there are also many people who can't control themselves. It is still early at 12 o'clock, and at 1 o'clock, they feel that they can play with their mobile phones again...

Not to mention the dangers of staying up late, I am afraid of myself if I say too much. In short, whether it is staying up late or not exercising, gluttony, in the final analysis, it is because I can’t control myself.

In the end, my body turned on a red light, and unfortunate things happened because I couldn't control myself and didn't have healthy living habits.

Therefore, a person's biggest opponent is often himself.

The biggest gap between people is that they can better manage themselves and control themselves better than who they are.

Can you handle yourself?