After graduating to work, I was alone in a rental house of more than 20 square meters, feeling lonely

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When I was in elementary school, I went to school with my neighbors and friends, and went home together after school. I had a companion on the way home, and I talked and talked along the way, so I wouldn’t feel lonely.

When I grow up, I go to another city to study at university, and I come to a strange city alone. I see all kinds of people, high-rise buildings rising from the ground, clean and spacious roads, beautifully green streets, lush trees on both sides, lively and bustling. The night view of the city seems to have nothing to do with me. Occasionally, among the people who come and go, I can’t find a person to talk to. The night in the city looks at the lights of thousands of houses, but there is no warmth that belongs to me. . There is an inexplicable loneliness, homesickness, family, and friends who are so good.

After graduating, I started working as a programmer. I was alone in a rental house of more than 20 square meters, commuting to get off work and eating alone every day. As an introvert, I always feel that the leaders always feel that the heights are too cold, the colleagues are lukewarm, and the enthusiasm for work cannot be raised. Don't know how long this situation will last? Inexplicable sense of loss.

Tell yourself from time to time, try not to be too eager to express yourself, so as not to be isolated by colleagues, but to focus on being familiar with the work content. Take the initiative to communicate with colleagues, integrate yourself into the team, and ask colleagues for business and technical questions and help if you don’t understand. The situation has really improved, and my colleagues are enthusiastically analyzing the problem for me.

On weekends, if you can't think of where to go, it's better to stay in the hut, clean up, organize some unused things, and make the hut so clean and fresh. Writing text, reading a book, brewing a pot of tea, watching the smoke billowing, the sunlight reflecting on the desk, it is also very pleasant!

I'm here to work and get paid, not to pay tuition. People are not obliged to help you for me. Helping you is a passion, not helping you is a duty. Loneliness is not about being isolated by friends and not being valued by others. Sometimes it is our own choice, and it is the demure and plainness of standing still in our own world.

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Sometimes loneliness is not necessarily a bad thing, but a kind of enjoyment. Tranquility can go far. With the fast-paced life in the city, we need more alone time to precipitate ourselves and touch the more real things in our hearts. We tend to think of communication as an ability, but we ignore that being alone is also an ability. Enjoy a lonely happiness, enjoy a quiet comfort!

I do not know when, and gradually became impetuous and eager for success. I originally insisted on writing articles, but after writing a few articles, the submission was rejected, and I lost the courage and wanted to retreat. If I want to exercise, I have a one-time fitness card for a one-year package. I have been there once or twice and never go again. I don't even know where to put the fitness card. I wanted to learn a development language, but I only read the basic grammar, I stopped reading it, and threw the book aside.

I am not satisfied with the current salary, but I do not know what skills I have learned over the years. Work is repetitive every day, and it is easier said than done if you want to double your salary?

After graduating to work, I was alone in a rental house of more than 20 square meters, feeling lonely

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A colleague of mine, named Youyou, came to the company as an intern last year and became a regular in a month. She is the only girl in the entire data department. Youyou said, "I really regret my decision and came all the way here. Studying, far from home, there are not many friends to play around, working all day with some boring data, low salary, and no room for development, I often feel uneasy now, want to recharge but have no clear direction."

"When I come to work every morning, I don't have time to be idle." Youyou said, "Every day there are a lot of things waiting to be done, even trotting all the way to the bathroom. There are always data that can't be analyzed and reports that can't be counted. ."

I found that Youyou communicated less with us. She often had lunch with her own lunch. After get off work, she went home alone. Youyou's work has endless reports. Often due to misunderstanding of requirements, the report produced is not what the leader wants. It is called back and has to be made again. Later, under the guidance of colleagues, Youyou realized her own shortcomings, and now it is not as laborious to make reports as before.

Say goodbye to the ivory tower of the university and go to work, we have to learn to adapt to the environment, correct our position and mentality, start from some of the most basic jobs, adapt to the surrounding environment, and take the first step.

The ability to withstand loneliness, hammer a pile in the impetuous psychology. Calm down and think about it, whether you have experienced good or bad, bad, like dark chocolate without sugar, make life bitter and sweet. Don't give up because of a little setback, tell yourself, take your time, get through it, it's yours, there will always be.

After graduating to work, I was alone in a rental house of more than 20 square meters, feeling lonely

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Life can't be as good as you think, but it's also not as bad as you think. I think people are vulnerable and strong beyond their imagination. Sometimes, I may be so vulnerable that I burst into tears with a single sentence, and sometimes I find myself gritted my teeth and walked a long way. - Maupassant

Loneliness and loneliness are not the same thing. Loneliness is a kind of emptiness forced by helplessness. If you want to read a book, you can't read it, you can't watch a movie, and you don't have the mood to listen to music. What should you do? A state of anxiety, like escaping from a cage, this is a kind of pitiful feeling at a loss. Such a state is called loneliness.

Loneliness is a kind of solitude in a world of its own, loneliness is a complete state, loneliness is the most primitive and authentic state. Life is like a journey, everyone will have their own unique experience. We should all have a good mentality and renew ourselves from time to time so that we can grow in adversity. Coping with loneliness calmly, loneliness is the most primitive and authentic state. Life is called life when there are many regrets, and real when the flaws appear occasionally.